Friday, July 21

7 QUOTES GUARANTEED TO PROPEL YOU FORWARD



1. We do what we choose to do. No one has any remote control with      which they control us. “SANE”- Anne Atulaegwu
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2. When you compare yourself with others, you gradually drug your mind into a state of falsehood. Your mind magnifies the achievement of the other person and belittles yours. “7 SIGNS”- Anne Atulaegwu
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 3. If you are in an abusive relationship, don’t ever entertain the thought of harming yourself nor committing suicide. It’s not your fault that the abuser has a personality disorder. Remember that you deserve to be happy.
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4. If you are looking for opportunities, focus on establishing relationships and creating value. When you look for ways to help others, you attract opportunities to yourself. 
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5. The rule of priority states, Begin with the most important task and follow through until the least important tasks are done.
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6. Feeling pressured? When I notice that I‘m getting under pressure‘s cold crushing fist, I withdraw into the arms of my loving Christ.
For each time I went to the King, He had just the right thing to say.
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7. God’s commitment to your life is a product of his love for you. That love is an endless, incomparable and ever steady one. Think about it, before you got a chance to see the earth there was already a provision of his love through the death of Christ for you.
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Read: 3 Quick Tips On Developing Intimacy With God

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Anne Atulaegwu

Monday, July 10

THE PATH OF A DREAM



Everything that ever had an end, had a beginning; and nothing ever reached the end without a pathA path is the link between the start and the finish, the beginning and the end.

Your dream is currently on a path. It is important that you identify what Path your dream is on. If you walk on a path unconsciously, you will definitely reach an "unexpected" end.


Since dreams are an "expected end", then it is not wisdom in action for anyone to leave their dreams to (FATE ) unexpected pathsDreams require intentionality for fulfilment.

 DREAM PATHWAYS

These are CHOICES, RELATIONSHIPS AND SKILLS. Did you see money anywhere on this list?
70% of young people believe that money is the one thing they need for their dreams to move from #paper2playout. I once thought so too. Not until, I began to run the birthplace and its numerous programmes. I soon learnt that money isn't a path for dreams. I will show you its place later.
CHOICES: Choice refers to the act of choosing from multiple options.
You are going to be faced with numerous options. Some of them will appeal to you while others won’t. However, know that THE CHOICES YOU MAKE ARE A PRODUCT OF YOUR VALUES

Read: 7 choices you will regret in 7 years time

What are your values ?

Values refer to those things we hold in high esteem. They are products of our beliefs/convictions and are influenced by how we interprete our environment and experiences. If I were to rephrase the above question, it would be WHAT DO YOU HOLD IN HIGH ESTEEM?

Many young people like Ada, Dapo and Ahmed claim to what their dreams to move from #Paper2Playout; yet, their choices indicate that they hold other things in higher esteem than they hold the dreams in your hearts.

RELATIONSHIPS: People are the quickest path towards or away from the fulfilment of every dream. Relationships are like bridges between the start and the finish; the beginning and the end of EVERY DREAM
Who are your team members?
Don't say, "Excuse me ma, i have not started yet. I'll set up a team when I start."

Read:  How to connect with people the first time

The moment you conceived that dream, you already started! Therefore your team members are those you currently share the dream with. They don't need to have an “official title" or some special designation to be team members
Anyone who directly relates with you concerning your dream is a team member.
Team members have the power to make or mar the dream. Therefore we must be careful who we allow into the RELATE-ON-SHIPYou don’t want to sink!

Read: How to build quality relationships for fulfilling purpose

Before allowing anyone as a “stakeholder " into your "life", first access them against your destination (dream). Ask the question, would he/she lead me towards fulfilling my dream or away from it?

SKILLS: These are abilities, expertise or talent required to move a dream from #Paper2playout.
According to Business Dictionary, A skill is An ability and capacity acquired through deliberate, systematic, and sustained effort to smoothly and adaptively carryout complex activities or job functions.  It involves ideas (cognitive skills), things (technical skills), and/or people (interpersonal skills). 

Read: 5 things you should do differently

Here is the connection; We make CHOICES based on our values; our choices determine the quality of our RELATIONSHIPS and our SKILLS. This is because we invest in what we VALUE.
If you value training, you will go for it. You will pay for it especially because you have a dream. If you don't have the funds for it at that moment? Save up for the next opportunity.

It’s amazing how people spend money on " Education" in a bid to gain skill for their " career dreams" but forget that CHOICES AND RELATIONSHIPS are two powerful equal midfielders in the fulfilment game. 

Critically look at your values. Are your dreams really important to you or you are secretly doing the "birthday wish" fallacy thing?

Evaluate your RELATIONSHIPS. Are they contributing to your fulfilment or killing the dream right there on paper?
Evaluate your SKILLS. How prepared are you for opportunities related to your dream?

Read: 5 simple actions that make a more fulfilling life

Activity 1 - List out 7 people in your life who you frequently communicate with (Mind you, they are your team members). Honestly evaluate their role in your life. How have they contributed to the fulfilment or non fulfilment of your dream? 

Activity 2- List out 7 people in your life whom you are currently helping to fulfil their own dreams (Mind you, they are your team members), How have you contributed to the fulfilment or non-fulfilment of their dreams so far?

Activity 3 - List out 7 skills you need to develop or learn to enable you fulfil your dream. Allocate a time frame against each. The time frame is a reflection of when you intend to acquire these skills



Excerpted from PAPER TO PLAYOUT MENTORING SESSION with Anne Atulaegwu




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Thursday, June 29

THE ART OF NETWORKING: How to Connect With People The First Time







1. Present a catchy personality pitch

A personality pitch contains your name, what you do and a few other details in 1-2 minutes.

People get bored easily and don't need to hear your generational theology at first meeting. 
What you say in the first one minute of meeting someone and how you say it goes a long way to determine if there would be a relationship afterwards. 

Let me break the elements down.

OPENING 
Greeting: Hello ma/Sir (enthusiastically)
Compliment: I love your hair, nails, suit etc (This must be genuine)

BODY 
Name : I'm Princess Anne Atulaegwu 

What you do: I help young people and women find and fulfill purpose via a platform/ organization called THE BIRTHPLACE. 

NOTE: I didn't say I'm a youth coach, strategist, counsellor, Mentor, medical doctor, teacher blah blah.

This is because, when you introduce yourself by clearly stating what solution you offer, you make it easier for people to readily connect with you. 
They can easily identify what value you hold when you introduce yourself this way than when you give them big titles or job portfolio. 

SOCIAL /NON FORMAL INTEREST:  I enjoy fufu a lot and I call my laptop - samantha. 


CONCLUSION: I'll love to know/meet you ma.


Read:  How to maximise relationships for fulfilment


    2. Maintain eye contact:

This shows you’re confident. Speak clearly. Don't talk too loudly, don't talk too lowly. Just be clear enough (time won't permit me to teach us the art of engaging via voice tones) some other time I guess. 

3. Lean forward towards them a bit. Not too much that they feel uncomfortable but just enough that they see you are eager to connect with them. 
This body posture also gives you off as humble. 


4. Don't stretch your hands to shake older people. Bow (we are Nigerians and in our culture, it shows respect). You can initiate the handshake If the person is younger or if the person is your mate. Please make handshakes firm and brief.


5. Listen genuinely while they speak: Nod, repeat things they say so that they know you are truly listening.

6. Thank them for their time: mention their name when you do this. for example, thank you so much for your time, Yetunde.

Read: How to build quality relationships


7. Ask for their contact: Never say, “take my number or card". Let them ask you.

8. Reach out to them afterwards as I explained earlier here


PS: One general rule you must remember is to not talk about your achievement in a way that makes you appear proud. There's an art to that too. 
My time is up. I might teach us that some other time.



Excerpted from THE RECRUIT MENTORING SESSION with Anne Atulaegwu

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Friday, June 23

THE ART OF NETWORKING: How to Maximise relationships for fulfilment





    This is a sequel to the last post on THE ART OF NETWORKING where We learnt how to build quality relationships for fulfiling purpose. Please head on here to see that!

    After you've built these relationships,  here's how to maximise them  for fulfilment.

1. Keep in touch 

I'm personally not great at calling people and phone calls aren't the best ways to reach me.
I'm often  locked in on one productive activity or another or just too tired to hold a phone conversation. 
I found out I'll rather text- regular, email or social media and that's because those platforms places no pressure on me to be "hyper entertaining" or what not. 
Therefore, my best keep in touch practice is via text message and emails. 
When you do this with your network of relationships, you will be readily accepted/considered should you need a favor from them


    
 2. Never refer non-tested contacts. 

     Integrity is very important to me. I often tell people, you can only vouch for yourself not others.
So when making referrals for anything, I never refer someone I've not tested and trusted. 
If I have to, I let my contact know that t relate at their own risks (of course, I say it nicely). 
Hahahaha
When people know that they can rely on you, they will maintain their relationship with you


3. Know when to lose money

I love it when I get paid for a job but I love it more when someone does for me, what I can't pay for. Therefore, I try to recognize when it is okay to not take money for the favour I did for a contact. 
Know when to let people go with your money, they most likely would pay in kind one day or they might know someone who you would need and can't afford tomorrow. 
Know when to volunteer. Know when to do free jobs. Know when to charge for your services (This is an entirely different skill I will have to teach some other time).



4. Celebrate people genuinely 

 
Do you know the birthdays of those on your network? No one will reject a birthday favour. So celebrate them on their birthdays, reach out to them during festive seasons or special occasions but make sure this isn't the only time you do.
                I personally celebrate my contacts, monthly, some bi-monthly                  others every now and then based on the category of our                           relationship.

            Read: How to build quality relationships
           

5. Give first and give often

Please don’t make requests when you’re connecting with someone for the first time. Be the giver. Consciously look out for needs to meet in the lives of people. Give first and give often. Trust me, good has a way of coming back to you in a press down, shaking together and running over measure.



Excerpted from THE RECRUIT MENTORING SESSION with Anne Atulaegwu
©2017- Birthplace Mentoring School (BPMS)

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